Curb Those Unhealthy Social Media Habits

We’ve all been there, scrolling through our social media feeds and seeing posts from a friend whose life looks like a complete fairy tale. A feeling of awe may fall over you, maybe even a mild sense of jealousy. Meanwhile, you’re still not entirely sure what path you want to take. Or maybe you just started following your dreams and you’re in the ugly phase. Repeat after me: no one has it all together. Now lets breathe a sigh of relief that you aren’t alone.

Sometimes it’s really easy to see the things that other people are doing and compare our progress to theirs. The problem with that is these posts are just a peep into someones life; a perfectly curated peep that isn’t the whole story. I know this, but I still find myself feeling a tinge of “man I wish I was as ____ as this person.” Or my all time favorite, “look at what this person is doing. I need to get my life together!”

It’s ok to use those posts as motivation but once you start comparing your life to theirs, you already lost. (I was tempted to insert that .gif of Dj Khaled saying “congratulations, you played yourself,” but I’m trying to be serious right now. Ha.)

Instead here’s some tips that helped me when I was struggling with those feelings:

  • Resist the urge to check your feeds first thing in the morning.

I find that starting my day writing about what would make it great and what I’m grateful for sets the tone for the rest day. It also gives me a chance to take note of the progress towards my goals. There’s no feeling like knowing you are on the right track.

  • Feel more content with your life.

Weird feelings can take over once you get a peek into someone else’s life. The best way to combat that is finding solace in your own life. Learn something new. Sign up for that one hobby you were always wanted to try. (I’m trying ceramics) Spend some time with people who allow you to feel comfortable in your skin. Focus on all the great things you have going for you!

  • Give yourself a break.

We are our harshest critics. I vented to a friend because I was feeling down based on one aspect of my life. It took that friend reminding me of all the other great things I’ve done/am doing for me to be like hold up, I’m tripping.

Do you spend a lot of time on social media? Have you ever found yourself comparing your life to someone else’s?

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When’s The Last Time You Did Something That Made You Happy?

A couple of weeks ago I was scrolling through the explore page on instagram when a post caught my attention. I can’t recall who posted it, but it was a graph with two sides for list making; a sort of compare and contrast kinda deal. For list one, you’re suppose to make a list of things that makes you happy. For list two, you’re suppose to make a list of things you do everyday. While I was making this list and comparing the sides, I realized often time I get “caught up” in work, life and family issues that I hardly leave time to do something I enjoy.

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I have a bad habit of laying around on my days off, doing menial chores and mentally preparing myself for the next time I have to work. Today I broke that habit and instead did something I loved! The botanical garden is one of my favorite places here in the city, but I always make excuses on why I never go. It’s too far (not true) I need someone to enjoy it with.(not true) It’s too cold.(and for once, that isn’t true)

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I don’t think I’ve ever walked the entire garden, it’s over 79 acres! But whenever I go, I make sure to visit the Linnean house and the Climatron. The Linnean house is home to mostly cacti, citrus trees and other frost sensitive plants during winter. Honestly though, the real party is at the Climatron.

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The Climatron is pretty much a dome shaped tropical paradise inside the garden. There’s three water falls, wildlife (shout out to the frog that I thought was a funny shaped leaf. It scared the crap out of me) and pretty much every tropical plant you can think of. There’s also a cute section of exotic fruit trees (stuff like papaya, star fruit and passion fruit) information about their origin and how they make it to grocery stores across the country, but I couldn’t get a good picture of any of that because it’s always so crowded in that section.

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Maybe it’s the humidity or the splashing waterfalls but there’s something very peaceful about the climatron and I’m always reminded when I visit. There was an older couple taking pictures by one of the water falls and it was so cute to see the woman fuss on whether or not her companion was getting her good side.
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Due to time constraints, I know it’s not always feasible to do something grand like visiting your favorite place, but it’s so important to make time to do something for yourself. This week I plan on:

  • noticing the beauty in the small moments.
  • concentrating on the things I can control.
  • spending intentional time with loved ones.

Take a moment and really think. What are some things that make you happy? Do you make time for those things?

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