I’ve been reading a lot of books with themes that touch on confidence and inadequacy. Lately, my levels of both seem to fluctuate and vary by day. I was in a yoga class one evening and it hit me. I have lived with myself for twenty seven years. For twenty seven years I’ve been strong. I’ve been caring, resilient and lovable. I know these things to be true. So why am I so caught up in what anyone else thinks?
I have big dreams. There are things I want to do. And to a person who doesn’t have as lofty goals, it may seem impossible to them. I often let negative interactions with others affect my sense of self. But someone who has known me a couple of months or even a couple of years should have no say in how I view myself. I am constantly evolving, constantly changing. They can’t possibly know me the way I’ve grown to know me.
Staying confident in yourself is a skill. One thing that differentiates super-successful and happy people from those who aren’t is the ability to sustain power and confidence, even in the face of uncertainty. I constantly have to remind myself:
You have to have faith in your capabilities. No one in the world knows everything. Everyone is good at some things and not so good at others. Don’t weigh your worth against what you can or can’t do. Weigh it against your willingness and your capacity to learn.
You have to take risks. You have to chose a path, put one foot in front of the other and begin your journey. Most likely, you won’t always know how you’re going to get the results you need. You probably won’t be comfortable, but it’s only daunting if you aren’t prepared to face these risks.
You have to stop with the comparisons. The journey you’re on is unique to you. Your chapter one won’t look like someone else’s chapter 12. When you spend less energy and time worrying about your “rank” and where you “should be” in comparison to others, you become free to pursue what really drives you.
I’m still learning all the time. I am a work in progress. But one thing I know for sure is I’m bound to big things. I’m capable of so much and I must never forget that.
What are some habits that keep your confidence on 10?? I’d love to hear!