We’ve all been there, scrolling through our social media feeds and seeing posts from a friend whose life looks like a complete fairy tale. A feeling of awe may fall over you, maybe even a mild sense of jealousy. Meanwhile, you’re still not entirely sure what path you want to take. Or maybe you just started following your dreams and you’re in the ugly phase. Repeat after me: no one has it all together. Now lets breathe a sigh of relief that you aren’t alone.
Sometimes it’s really easy to see the things that other people are doing and compare our progress to theirs. The problem with that is these posts are just a peep into someones life; a perfectly curated peep that isn’t the whole story. I know this, but I still find myself feeling a tinge of “man I wish I was as ____ as this person.” Or my all time favorite, “look at what this person is doing. I need to get my life together!”
It’s ok to use those posts as motivation but once you start comparing your life to theirs, you already lost. (I was tempted to insert that .gif of Dj Khaled saying “congratulations, you played yourself,” but I’m trying to be serious right now. Ha.)
Instead here’s some tips that helped me when I was struggling with those feelings:
- Resist the urge to check your feeds first thing in the morning.
I find that starting my day writing about what would make it great and what I’m grateful for sets the tone for the rest day. It also gives me a chance to take note of the progress towards my goals. There’s no feeling like knowing you are on the right track.
- Feel more content with your life.
Weird feelings can take over once you get a peek into someone else’s life. The best way to combat that is finding solace in your own life. Learn something new. Sign up for that one hobby you were always wanted to try. (I’m trying ceramics) Spend some time with people who allow you to feel comfortable in your skin. Focus on all the great things you have going for you!
- Give yourself a break.
We are our harshest critics. I vented to a friend because I was feeling down based on one aspect of my life. It took that friend reminding me of all the other great things I’ve done/am doing for me to be like hold up, I’m tripping.
Do you spend a lot of time on social media? Have you ever found yourself comparing your life to someone else’s?